We want boys to be boys

As my youngest grows older I can’t help but be reminded of the things that her brothers used to do….as well as notice the things that they didn’t….tbh I’m not sure what’s gender related and what’s because she is a different person!

One thing that definitely exists is the gender specific marketing of different toys and clothes. When a friend innocently made the remark below I was too surprised to reply. She’s lovely and it’s just as relevant a point of view as any. But it got me thinking. Do we?

“We want boys to be boys and girls to be girls.

Or do we want to show them the world and support them as they work out who they are and what they want to do? And play with!

The lovely lady said this when I was talking about how my boys used to play with their baby dolls (hurtling them down slides 😂😂).

I thought that boys and girls were luckier nowadays as there is less pressure to conform and be a certain way? I felt that there was more freedom to choose toys, activities, clothing and even favourite colours!?! But as my boys start to talk about boys and girls things is there?

As a boy mum I have to say that I get irritated that some toys still seem off limits for boys and that there don’t seem to be as many boy clothes out there, especially on the sales racks!

As a girl mum I’m irritated by flimsy fabrics and the captions you get on girls’ clothes. But I feel like boy toys are open for everyone – you don’t need a pink hammer to join in (but completely pink baby sets can perhaps be off putting for some boys as it rightly or wrongly gives out a message).

To be honest I’m just starting to explore what I think and would love to know what you think in the comments!

By the way, I’ve been meaning to say….for those of you that saw my previous little white box about boys’ and girls’ toys back in October (on Instagram) I have good news! @myfairygardenuk have said a boy fairy is on its way!” The boys loved their fairy gardens at Christmas and were so pleased that Santa had decided to get them “a girls’ toy”!

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